My accountant boyfriend and I are secret swingers – he wants to quit but I can’t

A woman has revealed how swinging has become an important aspect of her life, despite hoping to one day start a family with her boyfriend.

According to the anonymous woman, who works as an account manager for a multinational, the couple “meets the criteria for a successful middle-class couple in their early thirties.”

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Her partner works for a major accounting firm and their demanding jobs keep the duo busy Monday to Friday, the Cambridge graduate said.

During the weekend they usually spend time at the flat she owns near London, cooking and chilling on the sofa after returning from a long bike ride.

The loved-up couple also hope to start a family together one day, she claimed.

However, there is another, kinkier side to the otherwise ‘traditional’ couple.

‘Because every six weeks or so we go to anonymous houses in the Home Counties to enjoy sexual encounters with strangers,’ said the woman who proudly admitted they were ‘swingers’.

One such recent event started like any other and the room was reportedly “full of smartly dressed people in their mid-twenties to late thirties, most of them well-educated professionals, drinking Prosecco from Taste the Difference and talking politics.”

The swinger had arrived in a sexy cocktail dress, while the men looked smart in shirts and jackets.

“The fun usually starts when you realize half the party is going upstairs – and the women are taking off their clothes to reveal lingerie that would top the Victoria’s Secret runway,” she said of what’s really going on. within the swinger parties.

“Women in particular are told that this kind of sexual experimentation is not liberating, but demeaning and tasteless, that it satisfies men’s fantasies because women are hard-wired to crave monogamy and stability, not promiscuity.”

The woman, who said she had “a very happy childhood in the Home Counties” with parents who had been married for almost 40 years, had a brief relationship as a teenager.

This was followed by her second boyfriend with whom she was with for over two years – but then another man entered the picture.

The new partner, called Charlie, was her boyfriend for seven years and they lived together for five years.

“When we finally broke up, everything was up in the air—where I lived, what made me happy—and how much I loved.

‘I’ve been in a monogamous relationship since I was 16, but chasing the kind of relationship my parents enjoy – an ideal that seems impossible to match – hadn’t made me happy.

”That same year I had also undergone major gynecological surgery, which left me feeling vulnerable and with a huge scar. I wanted to reclaim my body and discover what made me happy.”

Desperate for something that would turn her on, she downloaded Hinge and Feeld – a dating app ‘targeted at those who want to pursue non-traditional relationships such as polyamory or threesomes’.

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But it wasn’t singles matches that the young woman ended up with – there were also plenty of couples looking for a threesome and showing interest.

”Single women who want to have sex with couples are known as unicorns because they are incredibly rare, and it was quite exciting to be in high demand.

”I met two couples, but noticed that the encounters made me feel lonely. Being a gooseberry while going to the movies is bad enough. Imagine how difficult it can be in bed.”

Luckily, Feeld is also where the woman met her current boyfriend – and after realizing they were attracted to each other outside the bedroom too, the couple agreed to enter into a monogamous relationship…” a kind”.

Sex is an arena where I can be my confident, fun self, without emotion, commitment or judgment

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“It would be loving and committed, but it would also include nights where we were allowed to have sex with strangers as long as we were together,” she explained. Daily mail.

Although she enjoyed the encounters, she confessed that there was a certain amount of jealousy when she saw her dear friend “kissing and caressing another woman.”

”But for me, sex is an arena where I can be my confident, fun self, without emotion, commitment or judgment – and where I know I can make men putty in my hands.

”I know what gives me (and them) pleasure, and it gives strength.

”What’s particularly interesting to me and to younger body-positive swingers is the wide range of shapes, sizes and anatomies you see at parties. Men all find them sexually desirable.”

There are also strict rules to follow at the kinky parties – and ensuring safe sex is non-negotiable, which means giving consent at all times, as well as using condoms and testing for sexually transmitted infections (STDs) .

The couple has also set their own boundaries: they only swap partners if they share the same room and strive for a couple that they both find attractive.

“Without clear communication and agreed upon boundaries, your relationship will have little chance if you pursue this lifestyle.”