My bridesmaid refuses to come to my bachelorette party unless she can bring her baby

A BRIDE-to-be is in a dire situation with her maid of honor who refuses to attend her hen party unless she can bring her baby.

The 20-year-old woman said she “strongly feels that a bachelorette party is no place for a child,” but that she would like to have her girlfriend at the party, too.

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Take to MothernetShe was devastated that her oldest and best friend would not come unless her three-month-old son came too.

She asked the forum for advice from other parents on whether it was irrational to expect her friend to spend a night without her baby.

The bride-to-be said: We’re in our late twenties and I’m recently engaged, and I don’t have any kids yet.

‘My oldest and best friend just told me she’s pregnant. She also moved to Dublin with her husband for work.

“’She’s a co-MOH [maid of honour]. The current plan is for the hen to have a night out in Bristol, and I believe my other MOH is also planning an activity during the day. None of my other friends have children.

Her child will be three months old by the time we get the chicken done, and she has said she can’t come unless the baby can come too.

‘I strongly believe that a hen party is no place for a child, but I also really want her to be there because I see her so rarely because she has moved abroad.

“So I turn to the moms out there! Is three months too young to leave and [am I being unreasonable] by telling her that her baby can’t come?

“I understand if that means she can’t come at all and I would respect that.”

People were quick to share their thoughts with the woman, with many mothers agreeing that they would not leave their newborn baby behind, even if it was with the father.

One person wrote: “[You’re not being unreasonable] – but you also have to accept that this means she won’t come. Very few new mothers would be happy to leave a baby so young to go on a hen night.”

The woman replied, “Thank you! The problem is that she lives in another country so has to travel and thinks it’s too early to leave her baby overnight, which I completely understand, so she asks if we can organize a baby-friendly activity. during the day.

“I’m holding back because (understandably) it would all be about the new baby and while I don’t want to be narcissistic, I put a LOT of effort into her bachelorette party and also want to make sure it’s fun for everyone else to make the struggling to come!”

Another commented: “She can’t bring a baby to a bachelorette party BUT it’s also too early to expect her to leave the baby behind for the weekend. So unfortunately she can’t come.”

Budget-friendly wedding tips

PLANNING a wedding on a budget doesn’t mean sacrificing your dream day. Here are some tips to keep costs low and still create a memorable party:

Set a budget and stick to it

• Determine your overall budget early on and allocate money to different aspects of the wedding.
• Keep track of all expenses to avoid overspending.

Limit the guest list

• Keep your guest list organized to reduce catering, venue and other expenses per person.

Choose an affordable location

• Consider non-traditional locations such as parks, community centers or a family member’s backyard.
• Look for locations where you can bring your own salespeople.

DIY decorations

• Create your own centerpieces, bouquets and other decorative items.
• Use seasonal flowers and simple, elegant designs.

Choose a wedding on weekdays or out of season

• Venues and vendors often offer discounts for weekday or off-season weddings.

Simplify the menu

• Choose a buffet or family meal at a Gilded Dinner.
• Limit the number of courses and opt for affordable, yet delicious options.

Borrow or rent clothes

• Borrow wedding clothes from friends or family, or rent dresses and suits.
• Search for deals or consider second-hand wedding dresses.

Digital invitations

• Send digital invitations instead of printed invitations to save on printing and shipping costs.

Hire a DJ or create a playlist

• Hire a DJ instead of a live band, or put together your own playlist for the reception.

Simplify the cake

• Choose a small, simple cake for the ceremonial cutting and serve a sheet cake to the guests.

By following these tips, you can create a beautiful and memorable wedding without spending a lot of money. Remember, the focus should be on celebrating your love and commitment, not on how much you spend.

“No, that’s totally inappropriate for bringing a baby to a bachelorette party. It will completely change the dynamic, you won’t be able to have normal conversations anymore, all the attention will be on the baby,” wrote a third.

Meanwhile, a fourth said: “If it’s a stag weekend then I seriously doubt people would want to do something baby friendly or spend more money on that just for her. It’s idiotic of her to even suggest that. It would be a no from me.”

“To be honest even if I knew someone’s baby was coming for a chicken I wouldn’t go,” claimed a fifth.

Someone else added: “Not a chance. I had the same thing with a very good friend. It’s difficult – and understandable, but sometimes women who become pregnant feel like the universe revolves around them and their baby. That does happen in their world, which is understandable.”

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