My fiancée, a trader, masturbates in customers’ HOMES – people beg me to leave him
A WOMAN revealed how her fiance’s porn addiction has affected every aspect of his life.
She explained that he watches the NSFW content while driving to work and when he is working at clients’ homes.
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In one after on Mumsnet, the unnamed user described the situation and revealed how it has derailed her family.
The 28-year-old has been with her partner, 30, for six years and shares three-year-old twins.
She explained that things seemed to be going well in their relationship, with him even popping the question the month before.
However, the poster soon came across “several private browsing apps” on his phone when she was changing the music on a disc.
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“When I questioned him, he admitted that he has a full-blown ‘porn addiction’, hence the private VPN browsers,” she wrote.
While this revelation was shocking enough, she couldn’t believe how far he went to look at porn during the day.
“Then I found out he was browsing or using porn multiple times a day at work,” she explained.
She revealed that her partner, who works as a trader, works until the early hours six days a week.
“He also admitted that he sometimes does it before he starts the actual job, and afterwards, for example on a construction site or, I hate to say it, with a customer,” she continued.
The woman added that he “even looks at it sometimes while driving to work.”
She pointed out that this habit also means that she often has to care for the children at home alone.
“He’s been coming home late on purpose and leaving earlier in the morning and now that I know he’s delaying his return, I’m quite angry,” she said.
“After seeing the time stamp evidence I have no idea how he honestly gets any work done.
“He also said he can never help with daycare drop-offs or pick-ups because he has to be at work for a certain amount of time, although I think he could help if he stopped watching porn before work. “
The mother-of-two, who works three days a week, said: “It feels very much like he is avoiding family responsibilities.”
Getting help with a porn addiction
IF you think you or someone you know is struggling with a porn addiction, here’s everything you need to know.
Acknowledge the problem:
– Recognizing that you have a problem is the first and most crucial step.
Seek professional help:
– Consult a therapist or counselor who specializes in addiction. They can provide tailor-made strategies and support.
– Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is often effective in addressing addictive behavior.
Join support groups:
– Consider joining a support group, in person or online. Groups like Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) provide a community of individuals facing similar challenges.
Maintain healthy routines:
– Develop new hobbies and interests that can distract your attention and reduce the urge to watch porn.
– Regular exercise and mindfulness practices such as meditation can help manage stress and reduce addictive behaviors.
Set boundaries and controls:
– Use Internet filters and parental control software to limit access to pornographic content.
– Create a schedule to limit screen time and ensure you have a structured daily routine.
Trust trusted people:
– Share your struggles with a trusted friend or family member. Having someone to talk to can provide emotional support and accountability.
Teach yourself:
– Learn about the impact of porn addiction on mental health, relationships and overall well-being. Knowledge can empower you to make positive changes.
Stay patient and persistent:
– Recovery is a journey and can involve setbacks. Stay committed to your goals and celebrate small victories along the way.
The Mumsnet user explained that she felt “a bit manipulated” by her partner’s lies and “excessive” porn addiction.
She described feeling “completely miserable” and said she felt “so betrayed and disappointed.”
Other Mumsnet users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“I don’t think I’ve ever heard something so bad. You need to get out of the relationship,” one reader wrote.
“Jesus, fucking Christ. Time to leave this relationship,” another person agreed.
“I couldn’t even consider staying with him,” said a third commenter.
“Just leave this disgusting pig alone, have some self respect for yourself. He has zero respect for you, fuck him up, seriously,” another Mumsnet user wrote.
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