My husband enjoys being with other men – my affair has improved our sex life

A COUPLE told how infidelity helped their marriage and enriched their sex life.

When a man discovered that his wife was having an affair, he realized that he enjoyed thinking about her in the company of other men.

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In a Reddit afterthe husband explained how his wife’s behavior improved their sex life.

He said his wife had been to a work function and when they got back they had “a wild adult evening.”

However, the woman on the poster distanced herself from him until she finally admitted to having an affair at work.

“Apparently there is a man at her work who she calls a ‘work flirt,’” he wrote.

“Well, during happy hour they got a little drunk and a little too flirty.

“The event took place in a hotel bar and they were eventually assigned a room.”

Although his wife attributed her actions to alcohol, she did admit that she felt she was “missing something sexually” with her husband.

She explained that she “felt something ‘electric’” when her colleague kissed her.

The woman added that she felt “so wild after what happened” that it caused “the craziest night” when she returned from drinks at work.

“I told her I needed some time and went back to the guest room,” the man recalled.

“I kept thinking about her and another man and two things happened: I felt hurt and upset, but also very excited.

“I don’t know why, but the thought of her being with someone else really made me angry.”

Despite his newfound fantasy about cheating, the man said they still had a lot to figure out.

“The betrayal I feel is real, but I can’t get over the fact that the thought of her with other men appeals to me,” he concluded.

He added that his wife has started looking for a new job and has arranged for them to go to relationship therapy.

Four Red Flags That Your Partner Is Cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond of BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking their phones everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal for people to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone behavior changes, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, taking their phone everywhere, even into the house, or acts defensively when you ask to use their phone, it could be a sign that they are not being faithful to you.”

“You also have to look at how they put their phone down when they’re not using it. If they put the phone face down, then they could be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

When partners cheat, they may start to avoid you. This may be because they feel guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and doesn’t want to do things with you anymore, or doesn’t tell you about his or her day anymore, that’s another warning sign.”

“Partners often avoid each other or share less about their day because cheating can be difficult. It’s impossible to remember all your lies and it’s easy to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

According to Aaron, your partner’s libido can change for a number of reasons, so it’s not necessarily a sign of cheating, but it can be a warning sign.

Aaron says, “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they’re cheating, but sometimes they have more sex at home because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You’ll also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and that it makes them feel good, but it can create tension and fear in them that they then have to justify.

“To release the tension they feel inside, they try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, didn’t do the dishes, or read your kids a bedtime story. A small issue like this can now feel like a big one, and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.

Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments.

“I think you need to separate the fetish here. If you really want to pursue the fetish, you need honesty in your relationship,” one reader noted.

“I think it’s a bullshit rationalization. He just went from lead guitar to rhythm guitar in his own band and says ‘this is great,'” said another commentator.

“Being in it is fine and all, but with your knowledge and consent. That’s what separates ethical non-monogamy from cheating,” a third person noted.

“He thought you were getting excited because it was already over, it was actually just a fantasy,” wrote another Redditor.