My husband flirts with my boyfriend because I said no to his threesome kink
A WOMAN is in uproar after refusing to have a threesome with her husband and best friend.
The woman took to Reddit and revealed that she was under the impression her husband wanted to sleep with her best friend – whether she was there or not, despite him claiming he had a ‘threesome kink’.
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She revealed that she had been with her husband for more than eight years, with children and a house, making them the perfect family from the outside.
But the 26-year-old became confused by his sexual fantasies after he started flirting with her boyfriend.
She said: “He has had a threesome fantasy ever since I told him I might be bisexual. Him alone watches threesome porn and talks about having a threesome every now and then when we have sex.”
The mother was open to the idea of talking about it, but has since had doubts.
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The problem? Her husband still talked about it with her friend, even though she set clear boundaries.
She continued: “I have a friend who we got drunk with once and things happened while we were drunk, but I decided that after that experience I didn’t have the confidence, mental capacity or anything to continue a real threesome.
“There are no hard feelings between us and I still hang out with her several times a week.
“Anyway, I mentioned the no-go threesome thing to him and he agreed to throw the idea out of his mind, but it still comes up in the bedroom from him sometimes.”
She said her main problem was that his fantasy always revolved around her boyfriend with whom they had a drunken night and she wondered if it was really about a threesome or if he just wanted to have sex with her boyfriend.
“Lately he’s been acting more and more inappropriately around her.” Talking about sexual preferences, that kind of thing. He is not predatory towards her because she encourages the conversations and sometimes brings them up.
“I told him to stop and he thinks I’m exaggerating. I guess my question is, do you think he’s just having a threesome or is he just looking for an excuse to fuck this specific person?” she asked.
The message went viral on the Subreddit Relationship_advice and people were quick to share their thoughts in the comments.
One person wrote: “Even if he had a threesome you expressed your discomfort so the subject needs to be dropped. He needs to take your feelings into consideration.”
Another commented: “Whether he has a fantasy or not. It’s completely disrespectful to keep talking about it after you’ve expressed your discomfort about it. That goes for your girlfriend too. She needs to stop.”
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“It doesn’t matter if it’s a kink or not. It doesn’t make you feel comfortable. I would be wary of the relationship between your boyfriend and him. They both seem way too comfortable behaving and talking about u I don’t feel comfortable with it,” a third wrote.
Meanwhile, a fourth said: “I’m 100% sure if you agreed to a threesome but if it was with another man and your husband he would back out immediately. This whole thing is about him and not something you would experience together. .”
“Let him know you no longer agree with the idea and that’s the end of it. If he can’t respect that then you’ll have to have another conversation,” a fifth claimed.
Someone else added: ‘You have opened a door that will be very difficult to close. It may come down to choosing between your boyfriend and your husband… and yes, I think he has a kink and a desire to have sex with that boyfriend, and this is coming from a man.”
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