My husband had an affair with my brother – it started with a trip I paid for

A WOMAN revealed the shocking betrayal she uncovered after noticing a bond developing between her husband and brother.

She discovered that the two men had been sneaking around behind her back for seven months.

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In a Reddit aftergave the unnamed user some background on her marriage as she opened up about the situation.

“We have been married for sixteen years,” the poster explained.

She revealed how her brother, who is openly gay, and her husband, 42, who is bi, began their affair while traveling together.

To make matters worse, it was the Redditor who proposed and funded the vacation.

‘Their affair started seven months ago when I invited my brother to go skiing in my place with my husband and our friends [as] I had Covid,” she said.

“I think they bonded during the trip and became closer after my brother went through his breakup and my husband was ’emotionally supportive’ of him.”

However, the 40-year-old only discovered her husband’s infidelity when her sister told her.

“I’m 100% sure they’re cheating. My little sister finally broke down and showed me a video of my brother’s private Instagram story where he and his friends were making fun of my husband and me,” she said .

She recalled how her 26-year-old brother “practically bragged” about their affair.

“So I went through my husband’s messages and found their conversations in his recently deleted ones, which were nasty,” she said.

The woman said she had “never felt so sick” and said she didn’t know who to “feel more betrayed by.”

She revealed that she still had not confronted her husband about the affair.

Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.

“Don’t say anything to him at all. See a divorce lawyer first,” one reader advised.

“I’m so sorry you’re going through this. This is such a huge betrayal from both your husband and brother,” another person said.

Four warning signs that your partner is cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking their phones everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “

“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

If partners cheat, they may start avoiding you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it might not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a red flag.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.

“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.

“Say nothing and make your exit plan in secret. Plan everything and expose them later, trust me,” said a third Redditor.

“Call a lawyer. Make copies and keep them in your email in case the husband tries to delete them,” said one commenter.

“Then I’d send everything you have to your husband and tell him how disgusting he is.”

“Don’t tell him, get a divorce lawyer and follow their advice to take him to the cleaners,” another person suggested.

‘Don’t tell him. Back up any documentation you’ve already found. Call a divorce lawyer,” one reader agreed.

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