My husband is having an affair and I’m okay with it – I love him like a brother anyway

A WOMAN has revealed her husband is having an affair and it doesn’t bother her.

She explained that she loves her husband “like a brother” and that although they are married, she does not admire him romantically.

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As a result, the anonymous woman confessed that she doesn’t mind that he has found someone else he has feelings for.

The woman took to social media to highlight her situation, leaving many open-mouthed.

Post to the r/outside my chest thread, under the username @efficient_East_9413, the woman titled her post “My husband is having an affair and I’m fine with it.”

She then explained, “My husband Frank is the most caring, loving and thoughtful man I have ever known.

“The problem is that I love him like a friend or a brother. I care about him, I want him to be happy, but I don’t love him romantically.

“He knew this and he married me anyway to save me from my abusive family.

‘He hoped I would develop feelings for him, but I never did – at least not in a romantic sense.

“Otherwise we are great partners in life and in business (we started our own company), and I enjoy having sex with him.”

The Reddit user confessed that she is not keen on divorce and therefore accepts the fact that he has developed feelings for another woman.

She continued, “We talked about the possibility of a divorce, but I never wanted one.

“I’m doing just fine as things are right now and a divorce, even the most amicable one, would bring issues into our business and into our lives that I really don’t need right now.

“But that being said, I didn’t want to make the man who literally saved my life feel like he was in a cage, and so I gave him the freedom to have relationships with other women.

“For two years he did nothing, but three months ago he came to me and confessed that there is a woman for whom he is developing feelings and who reciprocated him.

“He was embarrassed by this, I hugged him tightly and reminded him that I want this for him and I want him to have a partner who loves him the way he loves them. It feels so nice.

I care about him, I want him to be happy, but I don’t love him romantically

Reddit user

‘I was afraid he would neglect me from then on, but he is as attentive, affectionate and caring as ever, and I can see that this relationship is really doing him good.

“She knows he’s married and she’s fine with that, and even though I never wanted to meet her, I did some digging on her and by all accounts she’s a good, well-adjusted woman.”

The woman shared that she is happy that her husband is now fulfilled, concluding: “So I don’t worry about her hurting Frank or turning him against me.

‘She’s not interested in marriage, and that’s exactly what I needed.

“Frank is happy, and this makes me happy too. I told him I would be open to discussing separation (not divorce) if his relationship with this woman becomes more serious. But things are going well now.”

REDDIT USERS REACT

Reddit users were stunned by the woman’s claims and flocked to the comments to share their thoughts – with many calling the woman’s situation an ‘open marriage’.

One person said: “That’s not an affair, that’s an open marriage.”

Let Frank leave and have a satisfying marriage

Social media user

Another said: “Girl it’s not an affair. You agreed to an open marriage. I’m glad it’s working well for both of you.”

A third commented: ‘Let Frank leave and have a satisfying marriage. You can still be business partners and friends.”

At the same time, someone else posted: “Please don’t say you love him like a brother and enjoy sex with him in the same post. That’s just weird.”