My Husband Is Having an Affair – But There’s a Good Reason I’ll Never Leave Him
A WOMAN tells why she refuses to leave her husband, even though she knows he is unfaithful.
On social media, she said the couple was happy and that he was the perfect husband and father – apart from the fact that he cheated on her.
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She wrote: “I want to start by saying this: My husband is an amazing husband.
“He’s kind, a great father, he does more than his share of the housework, he makes good money and treats me well.
“We have a great lifestyle, we’ve been married for 15 years, with ups and downs, but my friends constantly tell me how lucky I am to have him.”
But a few months ago, she looked at her husband’s phone one evening and saw that he was massaging another woman.
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She found explicit messages, messages saying they had met (which also proved it was a physical affair), and even messages declaring their love for each other.
“He talks about parenting issues, like apologizing for being quiet because he was busy taking care of our son, and more specifically about parenting issues,” she continued.
“He mentioned me, so she knows I exist, but I haven’t seen him mention me very often.”
She was curious about who the woman was and looked her up on social media. She said she looked much younger and seemed successful.
She added that she had thought about confronting her partner about it, but had decided against it.
She explained: “I was shocked when I found out. But the more I thought about it, the more I decided not to say anything. If I confront him, our life will change completely. Our son’s life will change.
“I don’t know how he would react, whether he would deny it, or end it, or leave me and run away with her. I mean, he told her he loved her.”
She revealed that she has a Nice and a stable life and she was not willing to suffer that loss through an affair.
“It hurts when I see him texting on his phone, or when he comes home late from work, or when he makes an excuse to disappear for the night. But does it hurt more than losing this life we have?” she wondered.
“I don’t want my son to grow up splitting time between two households. I don’t want to be single and have to find someone else.”
Why do people cheat?
People can be tempted to cheat for a variety of reasons. Below we discuss some of the reasons that can lead people astray.
Unhappiness/Dissatisfaction:
According to Very good mind Dissatisfaction with marriage is the most common reason for affairs. A sexless marriage is often cited as a reason for both men and women.
The feeling of not being appreciated:
Being undervalued by your partner can lead to infidelity. The affair can give the person a sense of worth.
Boredom:
Falling out of love is often cited as a reason for cheating, with many people trying to find the spark again.
Body image/aging:
Middle-aged people can often find themselves in flings with people much younger than them. Being with someone younger can be a way to prove to themselves that they’ve “still got it.”
She said she worked part-time, but her husband paid most of the bills. She also took an STD test just to be sure, but it was negative.
She also admitted that she had kept evidence of the affair in case something happened.
The confession was posted on the Reddit forum The truth of my chest and went viral with 3.8 thousand likes and thousands of comments.
People were quick to give advice and prepare the woman for the worst.
Someone wrote: “I hope one day you want more for yourself.”
Another noted, “Great husbands don’t have affairs. Your son deserves two happy parents, and if you continue this, he’ll have a mother who isn’t.”
“Why are you so unwilling to accept your husband and your own happiness? You could be a successful co-parent. You deserve someone who loves and cares for you,” wrote a third.
Meanwhile, a fourth said: “It seems you value your lavish lifestyle more than anything else. So I wish you the best of luck I guess?”
“Honey, you’re setting yourself up for disaster. Just because YOU don’t want a divorce doesn’t mean HE isn’t thinking about it. Get ready,” a fifth claimed.
Someone else added: “A good husband doesn’t cheat. Terrible example to a son of what a husband should be.”
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