My husband made excuses not to have sex, like “my eyes hurt,” so I cheated
A WOMAN has spoken about the action she took when her sex life fizzled out after years of marriage.
The unnamed woman explained that she had affairs with men she met online after her husband refused to sleep with her.
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In her Reddit afterThe user listed a number of excuses her husband gave to avoid intimacy with her.
She explained that there is a 17-year age gap in her marriage and that she has been together with her partner for almost 30 years.
The woman, who had slept with only one man before marrying her husband, explained that sex had been a “regular bone of contention” in the marriage.
“He always had low motivation, but that came to an end six years ago,” she said.
“In the three years before it was stopped, we had sex about six times a year.
“I tried everything to seduce him, but nothing worked.
“He always had a million excuses, including my personal favorite: ‘My eyes hurt.’”
After failed attempts at relationship therapy, the couple fell into a rut.
The Reddit user shared how she used her flexible work hours to pursue an extramarital affair.
“I placed an ad or profile and immediately got responses,” she explains.
“I would browse through them, respond to a few messages, chat with them for a few days and if I was interested, we would meet up for coffee.”
If the meeting went well, the woman said she would “test” the men before taking them to a nearby hotel.
“The thrill was incredible. For the first time in five to eight years, I finally felt wanted. And then there was the tension and the tension between meeting for coffee and meeting in a hotel,” she said.
Despite all the excitement, the poster revealed that she saw the men as her “buddies” and that she “intentionally chose men with a certain flaw.”
This specification allowed her to filter out the men she could potentially ‘fall in love with’.
Four Red Flags That Your Partner Is Cheating
Private investigator Aaron Bond of BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.
They start taking their phones everywhere
In close relationships, it is normal for people to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone behavior changes, they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, taking their phone everywhere, even into the house, or acts defensively when you ask to use their phone, it could be a sign that they are not being faithful to you.”
“You also have to look at how they put their phone down when they’re not using it. If they put the phone face down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat, they may start to avoid you. This may be because they feel guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and doesn’t want to do things with you anymore, or doesn’t tell you about his or her day anymore, that’s another warning sign.”
“Partners often avoid each other or share less about their day because cheating can be difficult. It’s impossible to remember all your lies and it’s easy to get caught,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
According to Aaron, your partner’s libido can change for a number of reasons, so it’s not necessarily a sign of cheating, but it can be a warning sign.
Aaron says, “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they’re cheating, but sometimes they have more sex at home because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You’ll also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and that it makes them feel good, but it can create tension and fear in them that they then have to justify.
“To release the tension they feel inside, they try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, didn’t do the dishes, or read your kids a bedtime story. A small issue like this can now feel like a big one, and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.
“I was so angry that my husband had rejected me so many times that I felt like I deserved this second life,” she explains.
“I was wanted and that stroked my ego.
“I was in control of everything and that felt so good, because I had always accepted other people’s decisions, even though they were rarely in my favor.”
Eventually, the Reddit user began to feel guilty about her actions, stating that it would negatively impact her husband and the wives of the men she slept with.
She called her affairs “pathetic” and decided to end them.
“I never told my husband, but I promised to be faithful to him and I sought therapy,” she said.
“We started doing things we used to do during foreplay again, but long enough to get me turned on.
“I have come to appreciate him and the things he does for me and our son more.”
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