My sister wants to cut and dye my wedding dress for her, but I refuse to go
A WOMAN has revealed how she is refusing to attend her sister’s wedding because her sibling wants to ‘reuse’ her own wedding dress.
The upset woman, 28, explained how she got married last year and saved for years to buy her ‘dream’ wedding dress.
Take to Redditshe explained, “It’s this beautiful lace A-line dress with intricate beadwork and a long train. I felt like a princess and I still get emotional when I think about it.”
Now her sister, 26, is engaged and her wedding is six months away – and she has her sights set on the dream dress.
The Reddit user continued: “She recently stopped by to talk about wedding plans.
“At one point she casually mentioned that she would like to ‘borrow’ my dress.
“She thinks it would be ‘cute’ to ‘reuse’ it, perhaps shortening the skirt or even dyeing it a different color so it’s ‘uniquely hers’.
“I was surprised. I told her that I didn’t like her altering my dress, especially since it has a lot of sentimental value to me.
“She got upset and said I was selfish for wanting to save her money at her wedding, and “family needs to support each other.”
When the older sister stood her ground, she was accused of “not caring” about her sister’s day, and the bride-to-be stormed out.
Then the parents got involved and accused the woman of ‘breaking her’ [the younger sister’s] heart”.
She continued, “They said it shouldn’t be a problem since I’m married and ‘done with the dress.’
“But it is a big problem for me.
“I want to keep my dress as it is.
“They suggested I just ‘let her do her thing’ to avoid any family drama, but honestly I feel like it’s my dress and my decision.”
The situation became even worse when the sister stated that she now feels completely uneasy about attending the wedding unless she “shows support” by giving her the dress.
The upset woman added: “I don’t want to miss her wedding, but I also don’t want to give in to something I’m not comfortable with.”
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- Think about it – I went back to the store before making my final decision on the dress I chose, and tried it again with my second favorite to make sure I was confident. It’s an expensive purchase and you can’t return it like you can with your next Asos order, so take your time to think about it.
She then asked Reddit users for their opinion about whether she was being mean by refusing to let her “reuse” the wedding dress and considering not attending the wedding.
Many people were on her side and supported her decision.
One wrote: “It’s your dress and your sister is being unreasonable.”
A second added: “What if you have a daughter and want to pass it on to her? Unchanged. So entitled.”
A third commented: ‘You can’t just decide to claim someone else’s sentimental belongings. Let alone deciding to chop it up and change its color. I would not refuse to go under any circumstances.”
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