A MAN is heartbroken after discovering his wife has cheated on him. However, it is not her infidelity that makes him anxious.
The couple had been married for 13 years and had three children when she confessed to having an affair.
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His wife, who often travels for work, had been behaving strangely in recent months, which made him suspicious.
He said: “She never picked up video calls and rarely answered phone calls, especially in the evenings.
“Every time she comes back she’s cold and distant, and very protective of her phone.
“The way I dealt with my suspicions was by doing the exact opposite for her. I always supported her and her career, showed her how much I missed her and how much the kids missed her, gave her flowers and sometimes gifts when she came back.”
But his sweet gestures eventually made her feel guilty and come clean and admit her cheating.
He continued: “She opened the conversation with ‘why are you so good to me? I try to push you away and you do this to me’ before she burst into tears.”
It turned out that during her work trips she had an affair with a much younger colleague.
But he remained disgusted by his own reaction to the confession. Instead of becoming angry or upset, he simply replied, “If this is what you want, then there is more current to you.”
Instead of letting his emotions get the better of him, he walked away and continued watching the football match on TV.
But it left him feeling submissive and like he couldn’t fight back.
“Ever since I met her, I’ve always felt like she’s resigned herself to me. Did I just let her manipulate me into submission?” he wondered.
“A few days of awkwardness passed without much conversation as I decided to stay late into the evening. the office.”
The way I tried to deal with my suspicions was to treat her the exact opposite, always supporting her and her career, showing her how much I missed her and how much the kids missed her, welcoming her back with flowers and sometimes gifts
Husband scorned
But since then it has only gotten worse. When he finally came home, she offered him sex. Most people would have refused this if they found out their partner was having an affair.
But the man decided to comply, adding: “I was just numb and let it happen. She was wilder and more passionate than ever. I think she thought that would make it okay.”
Is your partner cheating? 4 signs to look out for
Private investigator Aaron Bond of BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.
They take their phone with them everywhere
In close relationships, it is normal for people to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone behavior changes, they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, taking their phone everywhere, even into the house, or acts defensively when you ask to use their phone, it could be a sign that they are not being faithful to you.”
“You also have to look at how they put their phone down when they’re not using it. If they put the phone face down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat, they may start to avoid you. This may be because they feel guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and doesn’t want to do things with you anymore, or doesn’t tell you about his or her day anymore, that’s another warning sign.”
“Partners often avoid each other or share less about their day because cheating can be difficult. It’s impossible to remember all your lies and it’s easy to get caught,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
According to Aaron, your partner’s libido can change for a number of reasons, so it’s not necessarily a sign of cheating, but it can be a warning sign.
Aaron says, “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they’re cheating, but sometimes they have more sex at home because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You’ll also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and that it makes them feel good, but it can create tension and fear in them that they then have to justify.
“To relieve the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, didn’t do the dishes, or didn’t read your kids a bedtime story. A small issue like this can feel like a big one now, and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.
She has since asked how the couple wants to proceed, but he asked for advice on Reddit because he had no idea what to say.
The post went viral on the Reddit forum The truth of my chest and people were quick to share their thoughts.
Someone wrote: “Your reaction is fair, it’s not wrong at all. It sounds like you’re still in shock, which is understandable. Do you know where you’re going with this? If you don’t, just listen to her and unless you have a reaction to what she’s saying, tell her you have nothing to say right now, you’re in shock.”
If this is what you want, then that is entirely your right.
Husband scorned
Another commented: “Separate her ass unless you want to live with this cloud of suspicion over your head for the rest of your life.”
“It sounds like you supported her and raised your children while she was having an affair. She doesn’t respect you, is this really the relationship you want? Because it’s not the relationship you deserve,” wrote a third.
Meanwhile, a fourth said: “Man, she cheated on you. You need to stand up for yourself.”
“It sounds like a divorce is imminent. But therapy would be a good idea too,” claimed a fifth.
Someone else added: “You are in shock. Be kind to yourself.”
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