My wife is having a lesbian affair – the emergency iPad revealed her sexting

A MAN has revealed he has been married for 13 years but caught his wife being unfaithful.

The father confessed that not only is his wife sending flirty text messages, but it’s also to a woman.

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Confused by the lesbian affair and what to do about the situation, the anonymous man took to social media to share his confession.

Posting on Reddit at the r/straighthusbands thread, the 35-year-old man titled his post “My wife is having a lesbian affair.”

Writing under the username @brilliant_Loquat3980, he then confirmed that it was a new perfume that betrayed his 36-year-old wife’s infidelity.

To give some context about his relationship, he said: “We started dating in October 2008 and got married in April 2011.

“We have a five-year-old son who is the center of our entire world.

“I love the two of them more than anything in the world. We have had our ups and downs in our marriage. In 2017, we were separated for eight months when she came out as bisexual and we agreed we needed some time to ourselves.

“We were able to resolve it and have been satisfied ever since. We both have jobs with varying hours and in mine I can be away for months at a time.

“In February, one of her old friends from college got a job with my wife. One night we went out for drinks to celebrate.

“Since then, my wife has been sitting in the corner laughing and texting her friend for hours.”

The man explained that the couple used to regularly spend quality time together, but this has since stopped.

He continued: “Since we started dating, we set aside one evening a month for the two of us, we watched a movie, had dinner and had sex and cuddled all night.

“When we got married, it became once a week. We haven’t done that since June and when I ask, she says she doesn’t feel like it and goes back to texting her friend.”

And things quickly took a turn for the worse when he went on a business trip, as he added: “In August I went on a two-week business trip and when I called the first weekend I was away, she didn’t answer.

“I called our neighbor to watch our house when she wasn’t home and he said his wife had our son and my wife was having a night out with her friend.

I watched for 20 minutes as they sexted saying I love you, I miss you, flirting and just sexting

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“In October, I was cleaning our room and noticed a new perfume scent that I knew wasn’t my wife’s, but smelled like the scent her friend was using. It was in our bed on my pillow.

“I asked my wife and she said she tried a new one a few nights. In the twelve years I’ve known her, she’s never tried a new one.”

The man then explained how he got his proof, as he explained: “Three nights ago I got confirmation. She was on the phone with her boss and was about to put our son to bed when her phone buzzed and she asked if I would answer.

“It was a text from her friend in her underwear on the bed saying I love you and miss you. I closed the phone and went to bed.

Four warning signs that your partner is cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking their phones everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “

“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

If partners cheat, they may start avoiding you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a warning sign.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.

“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.

“My wife keeps a spare iPad on her bedside table in case of an emergency so we can both use it. I watched for 20 minutes as they sexted, saying I love you, missing you, flirting and just sexting.

“When she came to bed, she asked me if I was okay and if I wanted to have sex. I said I was fine and that I didn’t want that.

‘I’ve avoided her and haven’t spoken to her since. I sent screenshots of the conversation to my phone while she was in the shower and deleted them from our messages.

“I plan to confront her on Friday, when my sister is in town. I don’t know what to do. I want to make it work with her as I love her but this is unacceptable. I don’t know what to do.”

Reddit users respond

Reddit users were left agape at the man’s claims, flocking to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation.

That liar isn’t worth it. Find an escape plan

Reddit user

One person said: ‘I’m so sorry you ended up here. I recently experienced something similar with my husband of 12 years.

“At first he identified himself as bisexual, but eventually he admitted that he was gay. I’m not saying this is the case with your wife, but it’s a pattern I’ve seen many times on forums like this.

“Take care of yourself! Sending virtual hugs.”

Another said: “I’m really sorry to hear that. Maybe it’s just a coincidence, but I keep hearing stories about people who originally came out as ‘bi’ and then suddenly find themselves gay.

“It’s almost like it’s a stepping stone or something, or easier than just accepting the whole truth.”

A third commented: ‘That liar isn’t worth it. Find an escape plan. We need an update.”