Relationship expert describes the shocking reality of ethical non-monogamy

Data shows that at some point in their lives more than 20 percent of Americans had a sort of non-monogamous or open relationship.

So if a fifth of the country participates in this kind of non-traditional relationship, why is ‘ethical non-monogamy’ so frown?

In a nation that seems to be increasingly polarized, says Amanda Wilson – co -founder of the #open app – that the key to bridging this concept is to have conversations.

And that is exactly what she did.

Wilson is an executive producer of the film entitled open – a documentary that follows the different stories of Americans in open relationships.

But in interviews that include more than 100 hours and included a further than 40,000 miles, Wilson did more than just ethically not emphasize people – they wanted to center women.

“Women are trending and we do things differently,” Wilson told the DailyMail.com.

“That means that we choose to do relationships differently.”

And instead of simply conforming to mainstream ideas about what their love and sex life should look like, Wilson said that women are starting to take advantage of their physical autonomy.

A large part of tackling this is to investigate the shame they are conditioned.

‘Unfortunately, society raised us [into] Thinking that there is shame in pleasure and specifically ashamed of women looking for pleasure, “she said.

“So if we take away the shame, that is when women can find their true identity, find what makes them happy, discover what kind of nods and interests it may have.”

And for some women this is done by ethical non -monogamy – and there are many different ways to lean in practice.

There is polyamory, swing, through, polyphidelity and much more.

Wilson explained that when people choose to be in these types of relationships, they are on a trip to self -growth.

“The thing with people who are in this lifestyle is that they challenge jealousy and codependency from the start,” she said. “And they know that’s a process.”

‘That is something we always work on and have to work, but try to hide behind the, the veil of monogamy, I think, people spend a kind of [of having] To work on their problems. ‘

But that does not mean that Wilson is anti-monogamy. She even thinks that one of the most harmful stereotypes of people in open relationships is that they are against monogamy.

“We are not against monogamy,” she said. “I think monogamy is great and beautiful and beautiful … For two people who sat down and have chosen that relationship style.”

For those who do not believe that one person can fulfill all his romantic, sexual or board needs, she wants to increase consciousness about ethical non -monogamy and their prevalence, so that they know that they have not limited themselves – even if the world encourages them.

Open is not about giving ordinary details about people who sleep with several people.

“People who are in the lifestyle, they are also just looking for community,” Wilson explains.

“It’s so little about sex and dating and much more about finding people with whom you can be yourself.”

Wilson said she hopes that with this film she can tackle some of the other unfair stigmas that encounter ethical non-monogame people.

She explained that a majority of monogamous people who were asked about ethical non-monogamy said they were ‘disgusting’ by people who practiced the lifestyle.

And they often believed that it is harmful stereotypes about polyamorous people, for example, including that they do not have good hygiene.

But she does not think that only showing their stories will challenge these ideas – this is why Wilson has chosen to include therapists, sociologists and researchers in ‘Open’.

Therapists in particular were important for Wilson to record, especially because of the bad experiences that ethically non-monogame people have had with experts in mental health care.

Those who do not understand an understanding of relationship practice are often made invalid or encourage them to end their relationships.

In the meantime, the issues in their relationships or personal lives are not a result of their lifestyle, but rather the same very human things that bully someone else.

By taking on a wide range of different voices, Wilson and her team hope that those who are interested in the lifestyle know that it is not as taboo as they think.

And she believes that the youth will lead the movement.

“I think the younger generation … They have seen their parents, they divorced, they have seen the parents divorce their friends and they are not convinced that monogamy is the only answer,” Wilson said.

“And they are looking for different choices.

“So we have to get the word outside that there are ways to do things differently.”

Wilson said it is now such a good time to convey this message – especially considering how divided the nation is.

‘[Ethical non-monogamy] Is still not something that is recognized or protected or simply generally accepted, “she said.

“So we have to do our work to make it known and to remove the information and to keep organizing and pushing it back, because we are that we will be confronted for challenges in the coming years.”