The five signs you have has a low emotional intelligence – including not asking enough questions

A recognized therapist has revealed the five meaningful signs that show whether someone has a low emotional intelligence.

The Florida -based therapist Jeffrey Meltzer provides tips and information about mental health to his combined more than a million followers Tap and Instagram.

TapJeffrey shared the behavior that clearly indicates whether someone is emotionally immature – and they are more common than expected.

The first sign that someone is not emotionally intelligent is if they are constantly in length.

“People with low emotional intelligence always seem to be in a conflict with someone,” said Jeffrey.

‘Whether with work, in friendships or with family – it is not bad luck. It is usually because they don’t know how to communicate without escalating things. ‘

The next one on the list of characteristics is if someone makes everything about themselves, does not ask any questions and has a mutual conversation.

“You share something, and somehow they are talking about themselves again,” said Jeffrey.

“Conversations are in monologues, not because they are self -centered, but because they have never learned how to have a real mutual exchange.”

If someone responds instead of reflecting, they might miss emotional cleverness, Jeffrey said about the third item on his list.

“They remove, close, become cold or passive aggressive without pause to consider what actually happens inside,” Jeffrey explained.

Emotional intelligence requires self -consciousness, said Jeffrey, and when that missing reactions quickly, hard and often cause damage.

Number four is when they double errors and justify their actions when they have behaved badly.

“Instead of apologizing or admitting that they were wrong, rationalizing, rationalizing, bending or shifting the blame,” said Jeffrey.

“It’s not because they don’t know the truth, it’s because protecting their ego feels more important than making things right.”

The final sign is if they constantly cross emotional boundaries, by sharing when it is not appropriate and dumping emotions on you without asking.

“Or, put pressure on them to open you up before you’re done,” Jeffrey went on. “It’s not a deep bond, it’s a lack of emotional regulations.”

When someone has a low emotional intelligence, this can have serious consequences for health and a long service life of a relationship.

Relationship and positive psychology coach Elle Mace, from London, earlier The signs revealed that someone would not be emotionally available.

Elle said there are questions that you can ask yourself to determine whether your partner is not emotionally available.

“Can you share your personal thoughts and feelings with them, do you know how they feel, do you feel supported and comfortable to open, can you meet decisions halfway?” she asked.

“If the answer is no, then they might not be emotionally available,” she added.

The expert added that there are several reasons why someone could make trouble showing their emotions.

“They may not feel safe to express their emotions, especially if they were not taught or felt at ease to show emotions as a child,” said Elle.

“For example, if a child is told to stop crying, then as an adult they cannot feel that it is ok to cry or that it is stupid to cry, it will therefore be for fear that if they cry, they can be closed again,” she added.

And a partner can act far away if they are afraid of rejection or to become ridiculous.

Elle said that is because “they have experienced rejection or are injured in the past when they have shown their entire self, so it is a coping mechanism to get them safe.”

In the meantime, Barbara added that people who are emotionally inevitably tend to monopolize the conversation.

‘These people talk about themselves about themselves and never ask for your feelings or thoughts for various reasons, such as fear of vulnerability and emotional intimacy, empathy shortages or low emotional intelligence.

“This means that they talk about herself excessively and never ask about your feelings or thoughts,” she said.

Also take over the conversation to prevent deep and meaningful conversations that can bring you closer.

‘This ensures that they protect themselves against emotionally hurt. Another reason is that they feel uncomfortable about their emotions, “she said.