‘Wear something less flashy’ wedding guest gets heavy criticism for ‘daring’ dress
A WOMAN has been heavily criticised for showing off the dress she will be wearing to her upcoming wedding.
The fashionista said her mother wasn’t convinced the dress was appropriate, so she turned to social media users for clarification.
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Post on Reddit, on the r/EQUIPMENTS thread, the anonymous woman shared a photo of the Shein dress she purchased.
She confirmed that the dress code for the upcoming event was ‘formal’, with black tie optional.
Post under the username That_Broccoli_4567the woman asked, “Is this slit too high for a formal wedding?
“My mother thinks so, but there is also an age difference of 35 years.”
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The emerald green maxi dress for women features a plunging neckline, spaghetti straps and a high slit at the legs.
The Reddit user later added, “It’s a formal wedding so I would be fine with that and I’m going to wear a wrap.
“I think normally I would play it safe if I was in doubt, but this dress is ridiculously comfortable so I’m trying to get some feedback.
“I haven’t been to a wedding in five years, so I don’t know what the norm is. This is my first wedding that isn’t a family member’s.”
Not only that, but the woman also added, “I’m usually super casual, but when I get to dress up, I DO. If what I’m wearing isn’t making a statement, my makeup usually is.
“Normally I would have a Nice tight dress and then statement makeup. Because I’m wearing this dress, I’m going to do a simple makeup look and keep my hair simple.”
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However, Reddit users were divided over the dress, with many taking to the comments en masse to share their opinions.
As long as it’s not white and fits the dress code, wear whatever you feel comfortable in!
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Someone said, “If it’s a millennial bride, I’m sure she’d be fine with it, but an older bride, not so much.”
Another added: “I’m totally fine with it. I wouldn’t be surprised if someone wore that to my wedding. I’m a millennial if age matters here.”
If it’s not your wedding, don’t distract from the bride
Reddit user
A third commented: “I love it! I don’t think it’s too high at all.
“Although my personal opinion is that as long as it’s not white and fits the dress code, you should wear whatever you feel comfortable in!”
Wedding Guest Etiquette
If you’re having trouble choosing a dress for wedding season, here are a few rules about what not to wear so you don’t get into trouble.
- According to tradition, wearing red to a wedding means you have slept with the groom.
- Informal clothing such as jeans and flip-flops should always be avoided.
- Any color that can be recognized as white or cream, even if it is not.
- Most will agree that your décolletage should be covered.
- Wearing white is absolutely taboo if you are not the bride.
But at the same time, one user advised: “Don’t take away attention from the bride. Wear something less flashy.”
A second added: “If it’s not your wedding then don’t take attention away from the bride.”
While someone else wrote: “I think it’s a bit daring.”
In response to the comments, the Reddit user later wrote, “I was definitely worried that it would feel like I was flashing people.
“But it’s actually very comfortable and even if I move or crouch low, I don’t let anyone see what I see.”
Do’s and Don’ts of Wedding Dress Codes
By Josie Griffiths, fabulous deputy editor and bride-to-be.
Josie Griffiths said: I will never forget the wedding I went to in October 2022 where one guest wore a white dress.
The dress didn’t fit properly, it reached the knee and didn’t look like a real wedding dress at all, but that didn’t stop everyone from judging her.
The rules for wedding guest outfits – which, unfortunately, are much stricter for women than for men – are supposed to be about “not overshadowing the bride,” which is actually quite difficult to do at someone else’s wedding.
But if you do it wrong as a guest, you’ll come across as a bit ridiculous, and to a lot of people who don’t know you personally.
It’s just not the right occasion for your new white dress, no matter how much online retailers like to dump them in the “wedding guest” category.
I would avoid anything too tight/short and avoid very formal dresses unless the dress code dictates it. You don’t want to be wearing a long sequined dress to a smart casual event.
Personally, I don’t like black dresses either, it’s not a funeral.
Otherwise, you should be pretty safe. Technically, wearing red means you’re in love with the groom, but that’s the kind of rule most people would laugh at these days.
I always check what colour the bridesmaids are wearing, just to be sure. After the Spanish wedding I saw them walking down the aisle in the exact same dress that I had in my Asos shopping bag a few weeks earlier.
If you are in doubt, it is best to ask the bride. But if you are already in doubt about your dress, that may be all the answer you need.
