I Have a Foolproof Rule to Make a Man Obsessed with You, But Everyone Thinks It's Too 'Bold'

A controversial mindset coach has been branded toxic after stating that women need to be rude to men to get what they want in a relationship.

Anna Kristina Schmidt claims that using “dark psychology” and activating the part of the brain responsible for rejection is the best way to make a man “obsessed.”

“The best way to get a man is to be rude and mean,” she said in a dating advice video.

“If someone is mean to you, it fuels your insecurities and makes you feel rejected,” she said.

The human brain is programmed to balance these feelings of rejection by seeking validation and acceptance, she explained.

“When we are rejected by someone, we long for acceptance (by them),” she said.

'The more confusing it is, the more they think about it, because the brain can't make sense of it logically.

“The more the person thinks about this rejection, the more they will think about you,” she said.

She explained that because the man's insecurities are triggered, he “wants to pursue you.”

She added that this naturally happens in the early stages of dating, but an imbalance arises later – when one party, usually the women according to Anna, “forgets their worth.”

“You're so in love that you forget to set boundaries, you're always initiating things, you're always available,” she said.

She explains that men then withdraw because there is no 'pushing and pulling'.

“There's no room for him to chase you anymore because he already knows he has you wrapped around his little finger,” she said.

She says women don't always have to be “comforting, predictable or safe” for their partners.

“Once you realize the power of rejection, you can use it to your advantage,” she said.

But women weren't so sure about the advice.

“I refuse to get a partner this way. The right partner would meet me in my softness,” said one.

“Me too, if I have to play these games then it's a no from me,” said another.

And men were against it too.

“A strong man does not tolerate rudeness, only a weak man tolerates that behavior,” said one.

“I don't care what anyone says on the internet; you can't have a 20-40 year partnership playing mind games,” said another.

One woman said she has used these tactics in her relationship, but it has “the opposite effect.”

“Every time I turn him down, he pulls away,” she said,

And people were quick to explain why: 'It's because he's a healthy person who values ​​himself. This advice only works for avoiders who secretly hate themselves.'

But others agreed with her.

'You're right! I've been married for 10 years and this is the dynamic that should be!' said a woman.

One even admitted that losing the 'chase' element ruined her relationship.

'I was inaccessible to him for a long time. Once we were together I opened up, he lost interest. is it irreversible?' she asked.