I’m a Life Coach and Here’s Why You Can’t Stop Dating People Who Are Emotionally Unavailable – Here’s How to Break the Cycle

A life coach has detailed how to avoid chasing the ‘euphoric’ but unstable rush of falling for emotionally unavailable people.

Matthew Hussey, from Essex, said who you are attracted to essentially comes down to what you value most in a relationship: peace or excitement.

He told his 2.9 million TikTok followers: “There is an intensity to chasing someone that makes them feel unavailable.

“Then there’s the feeling you get when they give you a little bit of attention, it feels like a rush.”

The life coach explained that while this sensation may feel “euphoric” and like a “huge release,” it is “not a normal feeling” you should have in a stable relationship.

He told his viewers that if they pursue these intense feelings with emotionally distant partners, they will never experience a sense of peace or stability.

He continued, “Where it’s a push/pull all the time, there’s no sense of just, ‘Oh, there’s peace in this.’ Peace does not necessarily have to be exciting.’

The YouTube personality explained that the relationships you get into depend on what you value most in your life.

If you are enamored with the endless games involved in dealing with emotionally unavailable people, according to the life coach, you are destined to be attracted to relationships that lack stability.

The life coach explained that if you continue to pursue emotionally unavailable people, you will continue to chase the constant highs of emotionally unavailable people instead of finding joy in peace and stability.

People flocked to the comments to thank the life coach for his advice, with one person writing: ‘I needed to hear this.’

Another continued: “So glad you’re on TikTok. Your YouTube helped me during the lowest moment in my life. God bless you.’

One user shared their own experience, saying, “Even in a healthy relationship, I notice someone is unavailable and fall in love with them.

“It’s absurd, but I feel like I need the excitement I get when I see them.”

Another said: ‘I’m in my first normal relationship and it’s so peaceful it scares me even though I can see it’s real.’

One person wrote: ‘I never knew why I felt uncomfortable when everything was going well in my relationship.

“I became worried and anxious because something hadn’t happened.”

However, certain viewers were left perplexed as to how they could no longer be attracted to the feeling of euphoria, saying, “So how do you NOT get attracted to excitement? We can’t help what turns us on.”

This comes after a British dating coach shared the red flags you should never ignore during the early stages of dating.

Jacob Lucas is a British coach who says he has “helped millions of people get the love life they’ve always wanted.”

People flocked to the comments to thank the YouTube personality for his advice, with many sharing their own experiences

In a recent one videohe revealed five things your love interest can do that are warning signs.

Among them, trying to gain sympathy, talked badly about their previous partner early in your courtship.

Explain why you should be concerned if the person you are dating badmouths their previous partner because it shows that they are “emotionally unaware.”

Jacob explains, “It’s a red flag if he calls his ex crazy, blames him for everything, or overshares his relationship with you even though he’s only just met you.

“It shows that he is socially unaware because he needs to know that you don’t want to talk about his ex when you just met him.”