My husband and I have never lived together – it works wonders about our sex life and even married friends are jealous of us

A woman has revealed how life of her husband performed miracles about their sex life – and even left their married friends jealous of their relationship.

Hayley Folk, 29, from Brooklyn, New York CityMarried to Kyle, 45, a year ago – despite the fact that the couple never moved together full -time after six years of dating.

After they had said their lifelong vows, Hayley went back to her regular life and sought her career as a writer in the bustle of the city while Kyle was more attracted to a quiet life in the suburbs.

For the majority of the married couples, the lifestyle of Hayley and Kyle may seem strange and enigmatic, but they are part of 3.89 million Americans who swear by living together (LAT).

Hayley insists that their sex life has never been so better, although Kyle is 500 miles away North Carolina.

‘When we see each other, we have time to miss each other. It really grows the intimate side, the desire, “Hayley told Femail.

‘When we see each other, we are excited, there is a feeling that they want to tear each other’s clothes off. When you spend a month or two away from your partner, it is how it can feel.

“It gives us the chance to be playful in our sex life – there is not really a routine that we fall into.”

Instead of being stuck in a routine that argues about dirty dishes or whose turn it is to eliminate the bins, Hayley says that the couple is enthusiastic to see each other and can only concentrate on spending sexual quality time together.

She said: ‘We have become really used to communicating about sex via SMS or telephone.

‘We have this unique ability to talk about sex in a really open way, because we have to, we cannot spend every weakness together and we cannot have sex every day. It feels very exciting every time and I look forward to it and I know he does that too. ‘

The sexualist of sex and relationship says that she and Kyle never find herself too busy or too tired to have sex and admits that every time the start of a new look feels – even though they are together for more than half a decade.

However, things change when the couple – who see each other every three weeks for a week – temporarily merge for a few months during the Christmas holidays.

The sex life of Hayley and Kyle was stagnated with longer dry spells when she admitted: ‘We definitely had a period of not having much sex, partly because we didn’t have to cram it in a week.

‘It made me realize that if we lived together full -time, we would not put that much intentionality in our sex life that we are doing now.

‘We could understand why couples come to a monotonous tone where they feel that they have to plan sex to make it happen.

“I don’t know if we’ll ever live together full -time.”

Hayley says that even her married friends who live together are jealous of her lifestyle, because they often trust her when they have marital problems.

She even made a few strangers say that they were ‘jealous’ of her and Hayley’s way of life called a ‘privilege’ in which they want to enjoy.

The writer said: “As often as I speak with my married friends who live full -time with their partners, they are like” Oh my God, I wish my husband would leave for a while “or” He wants sex all the time and it is annoying “I don’t feel like that and I would never want to feel like that.

‘I let a few friends say they were [envious] From me and even strangers. I was recently on a press trip and I told one of the women I met there that my husband is often gone and that we live apart and that it really works well for us and she said: “Oh my God, I am so jealous that I wanted me to, I wanted me to have that time and that privilege.”

“They had two children together, so she didn’t feel it was a possibility for her.”

In the UK, about 42 percent of marriages end in divorce, with the most common ground ‘unreasonable behavior’.

“Unreasonable behavior in a divorce is used to describe your spouse who acts in such a way that you cannot reasonably expect that you will continue to live with them,” explains the legal comparison site, the Law Superstore.

Hayley – who was married before – said: ‘I can fully understand why my female and my male friends told me about those experiences because it can feel as if it has become boring and that there is no new invention.

“I feel that many pairs forget to experiment with sex in a way they did when they first met when they have been together for so long.”

Haley’s first marriage happened when she was 22 years old and her ex-husband was 25 years old.

She went to a Christian Baptism College and said that a lot of pressure was being exerted to keep young people young, with young girls who wanted to receive a ‘ring for spring’.

At that time she started discovering that she was bisexual, with her former partner who suggested that they have an open relationship and marriage.

Hayley – who is polyamorous – spent this time exploring her sexuality, dating both men and women before the marriage ended because they ‘wanted different things’.

Polyamory can be defined as entering into several romantic and sexual relationships with the permission of several like -minded people.

Then she met Kyle, who had never tried Polyamory before, but now dates from several people while they were still married to Hayley.

Hayley had a serious girlfriend she had seen for two years before she decided to separate in January and she currently sees another man and another woman nonchalant.

Although many assume that Hayley and Kyle are getting jealous of each other’s new flames, she insists that she is happy for her husband.

‘I don’t really experience jealousy very often. I probably experience the fear of missing more than I experience traditional jealousy, “said Hayley.

“Maybe there have been times when my partner has been in Europe for work and he has been on a date with someone and I have not seen him for a month and then I think:” Maybe I am a bit jealous “.

“But then I realize that it is actually that I miss him and I experience the fear of hanging around with him instead of feeling jealous that this woman is on a date with my husband.”

Although many couples would usually write off inviting exes at their wedding, Kyle and Hayley were overjoyed that they could spend their special day with earlier loved ones.

“It is known in my family that we are polyamorous and my 80-year-old grandma was talking to my ex-girlfriend and it was very sweet,” she added.

But her family took some time to warm up Hayley’s polyamorous lifestyle and rejected it first.

Her father hung on her, shocked about what his daughter had just told, it told him before he finally called her back.

He revealed that Hayley’s mother, who died in 2019, was bisexual and that they had actually opened their marriage in the 90s.

Instead, surprised about the news, Hayley said: ‘I will remember that phone call for the rest of my life. He said, “It never works because people are getting jealous,” but I realized that they did not do it in a healthy way at all.

‘Over the years my family has become more comfortable with talking to me about [polyamory] And they may not agree with my lifestyle, but they are happy that I am happy. ‘