My wife’s ‘stalker’ family traveled 1,000 miles to crash our elopement wedding
IT’S the stuff of comedy movies, but a groom is still recovering from his elopement disaster and it’s no joke.
Instead of it being a loving secret between him and his new wife, he was shocked to discover unexpected guests at the venue.
His in-laws had traveled 1,000 miles to crash their wedding.
After posting the drama on Reddit, one commenter thought it was “stalker-level insane.”
The beleaguered husband laid down the whole sad story in his own after.
“My new wife had always talked about running away to Colorado, but I work a lot, so for some reason it was always postponed,” he said.
But things changed when they found out they were pregnant.
“We were so excited. We took four friends to Colorado and rented a huge Airbnb on the mountain with beautiful views. It was perfect,” he said.
The Rocky Mountain State was considered the ideal location because it was so far from their families.
Or, more specifically, his wife’s large family, which, he said, was “crazy.”
“She is fully aware of it and was excited to run away so she wouldn’t have to deal with the consequences from her mother and sisters. She grew up in a home with a manipulative addict,” he said.
“The idea that ‘family is all you’ll ever have’ was burned into her head from a very young age,” he added.
But a phone call to their perfect mountain cabin was about to turn the happy event into a nightmare.
“Her entire family, mother, father, sisters and sisters’ boyfriends, all drove over a thousand miles to crash our wedding,” he wrote.
“She had told her youngest sister about it a week before leaving, but we didn’t expect them to be crazy enough to crash a wedding that was strategically planned to avoid them and their luggage,” he explained.
By then there was no escape and this family brood would not give up easily.
“They came to our Airbnb, followed us to the venue and made our entire wedding about ‘the importance of family,’” he said.
“Her mother even interrupted our ceremony to pray for us.”
After the wedding, they insisted on throwing a party even though his pregnant wife couldn’t drink.
“Everything immediately went much further downhill. She manipulated my wife after we asked them to leave a place they were never invited to.
“Family is all you have” was the refrain he heard all weekend.
“The photographer and videographer even stopped taking photos and videos because everyone looked miserable.
“And her mother kept trying to take her into a bedroom for ‘private family time.’
“For the next two days after our wedding, we focused on her mother’s need for attention,” he said.
‘After all was said and done, we had a ruined ceremony and her mother would do her best to distract my wife from achieving anything.
“We are both so angry about the situation and we took time to calm down before doing anything else,” he said, turning to the Reddit community for comfort and guidance.
As usual, Redditors didn’t hesitate in their opinions.
“Turn off all location sharing. That’s stalker level insane,” said one commenter.
“A 26-year-old adult does not need to share their location with their parents or family. So weird,” said another.
“This won’t be a marriage, it will be a war with no winners for that child’s entire existence. Poor child,” was one person’s desperate response.
“As someone with a bat family, you cut them off and go to therapy, or you live with toxicity forever,” they said.
“Unfortunately, there is no middle ground. Many of us with narcissistic parents have tried it. Trying to negotiate with madness and entitlement will exhaust you,” she added.
“Good luck with the baby, no sarcasm, but they will show up and screw that up too, 100% guaranteed,” was one commenter’s grim prediction.
“I sincerely wish you and your wife all the best for the future. Your MIL has been upgraded from monster-in-law to big monster,” someone else wrote.
“You, your wife and your child are the only family that means everything right now,” she added.
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