I slept with my sister’s husband. I feel bad, but it’s partly her fault

ALTHOUGH she caused her sister to divorce her husband, one woman said she doesn’t think all the blame falls on her.

While she may have slept with her sister’s husband, she says her sister was also partly to blame.

The Anonymous Redditor u/Estimate-type shared the story in a message.

The 29-year-old explained that she found herself in a ‘complicated’ and ‘difficult’ situation with her older sister after she was caught sleeping with her brother-in-law.

“I truly believe that I am not solely responsible for the consequences and that I need an impartial judgment on whether I am the asshole in this scenario,” she wrote.

She explained that before she did the deed, she had noticed “questionable behavior” from her brother-in-law.

“Concerned about my sister’s well-being, I decided to raise the issue with her. However, she ignored my concerns, leaving me unsure of how to proceed,” she said.

Her sister, a flight attendant, had asked her to keep her recently laid-off husband company while she was away for work.

“She trusted me and did not believe the warnings I previously gave her about his behavior towards me, but I saw this as an opportunity to support their marriage and help them rebuild their bond,” she said.

“Unfortunately, as we spent more time together, our bond deepened and we ultimately crossed a line that should never have been crossed.”

After a few drinks, her brother-in-law confided in her about his marital problems.

“One thing led to another and we did the unthinkable. I woke up realizing the nature of what I was doing and immediately realized the nature of what had happened,” she said.

“We were both so drunk that we just fell asleep. I woke up to my sister screaming and hitting us both, screaming, ‘How could you do this to me? We’re sisters, I trusted you?'”

Since the incident, her sister has refused to talk to her and her parents have sided with her sister.

Although she feels “a sense of guilt and remorse” and although her parents believe she has “violated every family moral,” she believes there are two sides to every story.

“There are multiple factors at play here, and I am not the only one responsible for the failure of their marriage,” she said.

“While I acknowledge my mistake, I also wonder why my sister has not addressed the issues in her relationship and why she left her husband in my care without setting clear boundaries.”

People in the comments felt that her argument still needed some work.

“If it failed, it was your job to help your sister through this and get her to counseling or divorce,” one commenter said.

“Instead, you led your way into his pants. I think the more about the story, and the more about the story is that you had feelings for the BIL for a while and this ‘drunk’ behavior caused you acted on it.”

“YTA. You slept with your sister’s husband and somehow you want to blame HER for it. Worse, you want Reddit to confirm your insane logic,” said another.

“YTA. Regardless of the issues, you betrayed your sister by deciding to sleep with her ex-husband. What literally forced you to do this and why did you think it was a good idea?” a third party agreed.

After some thought, the Redditor explained that she was “genuinely sorry” for her behavior and that there was “no excuse” for what she did.

“Last night, after reading the comments, I gathered the courage to reach out and apologize to my sister,” she said.

“Unfortunately, despite my sincere efforts, she has not only refused to speak to me, but has also blocked me from all forms of communication.”

Since the incident, she has discovered that her ex-brother-in-law has refused to answer her calls and told her mother that she was the one who initiated sex and forced herself on him after getting him drunk.

Calling his lies “further from the truth,” she was in shock and began undergoing therapy to determine the cause of her behavior.

‘I can’t believe he went through me under the bus after being there for him for so long. I guess I really looked like a fool, huh?’ she said.

“While I hope that one day my sister will be willing to reopen the lines of communication, I also recognize the possibility that she may never want to talk to me again.

“Regardless, I will continue to grow, learn and reflect on my actions, knowing that healing and reconciliation are processes that cannot be rushed or forced.”

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