Former Mormon lays bare fascinating DATING slang used by members of the ultra-strict church – and the meanings behind the quirky phrases, from ‘Levi lovin’ to ‘filling your canteen’… so, how many do YOU understand?
A woman who grew up within the ultra-strict Mormon faith has shared some of the fascinating dating jargon used by members of the church.
Former Mormon Alyssa Grenfell, 31, often shares her experiences living within the strict religion, culminating in her departure from the church.
In a recent segment, Alyssa shared common slang words – and what they mean in the Mormon community.
The first was ‘NCMO’ – which stands for no-obligation make-out session.
“This is essentially the Mormon version of a booty call and is very common at BYU (Brigham Young University – a private Mormon university),” the mother of two explained.
Former Mormon Alyssa Grenfell, 31, who was raised in the ultra-religious church, has shared some of the popular dating jargon used by members
Former Mormon Alyssa Grenfell, 31, who was raised in the ultra-religious church, has shared some of the popular dating jargon used by members
She then moved on to “Levi lovin,” which the former Mormon explains is a “Mormon term referring to dry humping.”
“These are basically the movements of sex while clothed,” she explained.
Alyssa then mentioned an infamous term that non-Mormons may be familiar with: soaking.
When couples don’t want to “sin” by having premarital sex, some instead do an act called “soaking,” which refers to a man sexually penetrating a woman without thrusting or moving.
“Though I swear this is just a Mormon myth,” the YouTube personality joked.
Another term used in Mormon communities was “Fill your canteen.”
As Alyssa explained, the term comes from when a member of the Church serves on a Mormon mission.
“They are not allowed to have physical contact with the opposite sex, so that means they have to fill their canteen with as many NCMOs as possible,” she says.
Alyssa renounced religion at age 25 and proudly underwent a post-Mormon ‘glow-up’
After leaving the Mormon church in 2017 at the age of 25, she happily began implementing previously forbidden luxuries like coffee (pictured) into her life
Alyssa graduated from BYU religious school in 2016 with a degree in English and teaching
In another video, she described the “painful” process of getting married into the Mormon church when she was 23
‘[It’s so] they have something to remember when they are lonely missionaries,” she said cheekily.
The last term was “sweet spirit” – which Alyssa says is a “mean term” for a girl who is unattractive “but has a good heart.”
“There’s a song about this in a Mormon movie and the best line is that she’ll only get married if we bring back polygamy,” she said.
She captioned the YouTube video, “You’ll never find an eternal companion if you’re just someone’s NCMO.”
Alyssa grew up within the confines of an ultra-strict household, but escaped the uptight lifestyle and began focusing on reclaiming her body after leaving the Mormon church with her husband in 2017.
Alyssa, who now lives in Austin, Texas, with her husband and two children, rather candid about what it was like to go to the strictly religious university BYU.
The college is known for its campus culture and regulations, which are closely aligned with the tenets of the faith.
After renouncing religion at age 25, Alyssa proudly went through a post-Mormon glow, which included getting a nose ring and tattoos, and wearing a bikini for the first time at age 28.
In another video, she described the “painful” process of getting married in the Mormon church, with the church controlling every aspect of the wedding, including choosing her dress for her.
She has also since come out with a book called How to Leave the Mormon Church: An ExMormon’s Guide to Rebuilding After Religionwhich she recently snuck onto the shelves of BYU’s library, as she documented on TikTok.
