Is 29 too young to get married? Tiktoker regrets getting married in her twenties

A woman has sparked a furious debate after revealing she wished she “didn’t get married in her 20s,” suggesting she’s too young to tie the knot.

Denise Lee, 40, from New York, revealed things she “wouldn’t do in her twenties and thirties.”

Marriage was at the top of her list.

“I met my husband when I was 24 and got married when I was 29,” she explained in a TikTok video.

“I thought it was the perfect time to get married then.

“But what I realized in the four years I was married was that I’ve grown a lot as a person.

“I graduated from business school, started my own company, became such a different person that I didn’t feel like he was the best fit for me anymore.

“I don’t think I could have realized that at 29 when I said yes.

“If I had realized I would have allowed myself to grow so much more in that moment before making a decision about a life partner,” she added.

“And it wasn’t about that person, it was about the position I wanted to take with my life.

“My interests at age 35 were unrecognizable to my former self.

“And I don’t think it would be fair to take him on this journey if I don’t think he was the right partner for the version of me to come,” she added.

Traditionally, women tried to marry before the age of 30, with families struggling to marry off their daughters as they got older.

But as times have changed, both women and men are waiting longer to get married – with the average age of marriage in the UK now 31.5 for women and 33.4 for men.

It’s a big change from the 1970s, when 90 percent of women were married before age 25.

But despite the changing statistics and increasing age of marriage, the entrepreneur’s advice was met with raised eyebrows, with many saying she could have simply “grown with her husband” instead.

“But you could also argue that your partner played a big part in your change and growth during your marriage,” one person wrote.

‘If we don’t actually change every decade, then you become a new person with new interests. Who’s to say you don’t think the next guy at 39 is the best fit for you?’ added one more.

“My wife and I went to high school together, dated at 24, got married at 30, kids at 32 and will be 40 next year. I think growing together is key,” added a third to it.

‘The two most important things in life are choosing your partner and having children. Don’t rush these decisions!’ said another.

“You just have to be with someone you can grow with. You never stop growing so that’s no excuse not to get married,” said another.

However, some agreed with one writing, “I’m 33, met my boyfriend at 32, and I feel like this is the most mature, respectful, and happy relationship I’ve been in.”

“I’ve always felt that I won’t blossom until I’m in my mid-thirties. I’m not in a rush for anything, what’s meant for me will find its way and I’ll keep growing,” said one.

‘Am I the only one who understands her point of view? They grew in different directions and it could have prevented both of them from reaching their higher selves,” added another.

‘Yes. I met him at 21, got married at 24 and divorced at 29.

“I got married in my mid-thirties, which many thought was ‘older’. However, I feel like I was a completely different person when I was in my mid-30s versus my 20s. Best decision,” said one.