We slept with our bridesmaid on our wedding night – it wasn’t the first time we were intimate with her, marriage is different for everyone
A couple who slept with their bridesmaid on their wedding night have revealed it wasn’t the first time they were intimate with her.
Katey, 27, and Dan Babbage, 26, from Plymouth, tied the knot in an intimate ceremony in September.
The newlyweds were first introduced by mutual friends seven years ago and decided to open up their relationship to others when discussing their fantasies.
As such, Katey and Dan started experimenting with other people and even appeared on the Channel 4 show Open House: The Big Sex Experiment earlier this year.
Over the past two years, Dan and Katey had invited their good friend – who even acted as the couple’s maid of honor – into their bedroom.
Pictured: Katey and Dan Babbage on their wedding day in September. The couple has been together for seven years and started experimenting with ‘non-monogamy’ two years later
Dan described how they had previously ‘played’ with the anonymous woman and said of their wedding night: ‘We didn’t know beforehand that it would happen, but we had talked about possible scenarios.
“A lot of our friends who came over also had lifestyles and we joked about having an orgy on the wedding night.”
Discussing how the threesome came about, Dan continued, “Nothing was planned. Towards the end of the evening people started to dress down, so we took Katey’s friend back to the room for a drink.
“We just drank and played games and things progressed and we all got involved. Katey is bisexual and we looked into it [the bridesmaid] for.’
Speaking about the judgment they have faced as a couple, the newlyweds said, “It is not that we have defiled the institution of marriage; marriage is different for everyone.’
Additionally, Katey – who is estranged from her family due to her open relationship – also said she doesn’t care what others think of their arrangement.
She added: ‘I’d say don’t shy away from it, but if you’ve never done it before, don’t make your first night your wedding night – but live and let live, who cares.
‘It’s not for everyone and some people maybe shouldn’t try it, but if you’re interested and your relationship is solid enough, why not seek it out.’
Over the past two years, Dan and Katey (pictured in their hometown of Plymouth) had invited their good friend – who even acted as the couple’s bridesmaid – into their bedroom
Pictured: Katey with her hen earlier this year. Katey explained how the couple invited one of her best friends to join them in the bedroom on the night of their wedding – as she continues to explore her bisexuality
Before appearing on the Channel 4 series this summer, Katey confided to her family about her and Dan’s unusual setup. Since then, she has had little contact with her loved ones.
Discussing the impact it had on their wedding day, Katey continued: ‘For me it was difficult because none of my family were there and Dan’s dad walked me down the aisle. My father wasn’t interested after we told him about us.
‘Last September we went away to film a TV show so we thought we should tell them.
‘Dad is very protective, but he was afraid I would bring shame on the family, I think it was mainly self-preservation.
‘It’s sad because he closed himself off at a very important time in my life. He didn’t even bother when it was my wedding to walk his only daughter down the aisle and they threw insults at Dan saying he was my abuser and that he forced me to do it when I was the one who signed up for Open House and Love does not judge.
‘There is no way back for me.’
Furthermore, Dan and Katey prefer to describe their relationship as ‘non-monogamous’ – rather than calling themselves swingers.
Over the past two years they have ‘played’ with twenty people, including men, women and other couples.
Dan said: ‘We only started exploring the lifestyle a few years ago, we needed a strong foundation first. I was the one who suggested it, but we had never explored such a lifestyle before.
‘We were lying in bed one night talking about desires and fantasies and I said I would like to see you with another man, that would push my boundaries.
‘We were always a bit spicier than our friends, but when we were monogamous our sex life was brilliant – we didn’t try to fix anything.’
Although Katey says she was initially ‘shocked’ and ‘anxious’ about breaking open their relationship, she explained how it has brought them closer together.
She continued, “At first I felt quite anxious, but the more I thought about it, the more I felt like he actually trusts me so much because I’ve only been in possessive and jealous relationships.
“It took ages for us to find the first person, I was messaging guys and it got a bit spicy and Dan was sitting there with me otherwise I would be recording it on screen. It was Dan’s fantasy we were living out.”
In Truly’s Love Don’t Judge, Katey (pictured on her wedding day) explained how the couple invited one of her bridesmaids to join them in the bedroom on the night of their wedding – as she continues to explore her bisexuality.
Pictured: Katey and Dan with Kirsty and Tom, who they met while filming Channel 4’s Open House: The Big Sex Experiment
Since appearing on Channel 4 and Truly’s Love Don’t Judge, Katey and Dan say countless people in their lives have confided in them that they are also non-monogamous.
Dan added: “I think most people know someone who is involved in the lifestyle or involved in it. The majority of people have at least thought about it at some point.
“If we were to start society over, non-monogamy would be the norm, the only reason we are monogamous is because of conditioning.”
Katey said: ‘We’ve met people from all walks of life, there’s a stigma about ‘keys in a bowl’ but it’s not like that. Most club nights are under 40, which would surprise a lot of people.
‘There is a wide variety of different ages, races and looks. It could be anyone from all walks of life, we know people in policing and teachers, people we went to school with and live the lifestyle.”