What wedding night sex?

Instead, their wedding night was spent with the bride’s mother helping her take off her wedding dress after Mr. Sethi fell into a deep sleep. The couple, who are 30 and live in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, consummated the following day. “We’re more of a morning sex person anyway,” Mrs. Lewis said.

Scheduling can even work for couples who were already sexually active. “We were very strategic in how we wanted the night to go so we could have sex,” Ofelia Saba Ramírez said of her wedding to Jessica Saba Ramírez, both graduate students, on March 25, 2022. They limited their alcohol consumption and stayed hydrated. also consume energy drinks on their wedding day to stay awake.

In the end, the couple, who are 41 and live in Los Angeles, had “not the most energetic, but incredibly memorable” sex, according to Ofelia Saba Ramírez. They felt like they were continuing the sexual connection they said is an important part of their relationship, and despite being exhausted, they were proud of themselves for making it a priority.

“Mainstream forms of pop culture have entered our minds and led us to believe that wedding night sex should be a magical night of earth-shattering pleasure,” says Shavon Gaddy-Dalrymple, a New York City psychotherapist who specializes in couples. “Couples tend not to plan their wedding night sex,” she added, “but have the most expectations about its success.”

Ms. Gaddy-Darlrymple recommended appointing a friend as the wedding night planner, someone who can furnish the room the couple will retire to after the wedding, and make sure the couple leaves the wedding reception early (and sober) enough so that they are not completely exhausted.

However, no matter how many chances a couple has, they still can’t have sex on their wedding night.