Bride-to-be criticized for ‘tacky’ details in wedding invitations – but others think it’s a reasonable request
A bride-to-be has sparked heated debate online after adding a ‘tacky’ detail to her wedding invitations.
Earlier this month, one of the bride’s guests posted a screenshot of the divisive invitation to the Facebook group That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming.
After laying out the order of service for the day and the dress code, the US couple asked their guests to cover the cost of their meal at the reception.
It read: ‘In lieu of traditional wedding gifts, we kindly request that you contribute towards the costs of our reception buffet.
“It allows us to share a delicious meal together and create lasting memories with our loved ones.”
Pictured: The wedding invitation that divided members of the That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming Facebook group
The bride then explained how adults are expected to pay $40 [£31] while children under 12 will be charged $20 [£15].
In addition, the couple requests the contributions prior to the wedding and includes their bank details on the invitation.
The invitation continued: “To facilitate the planning process, we kindly ask that you include your contribution when you register.
“This will help us provide accurate numbers to our venue and ensure a seamless experience for everyone.”
They concluded by writing, “Your presence at our wedding is the most meaningful gift we could ask for and we are truly grateful for your love and support as we begin this new chapter of our lives together.”
The guest invited other members of the Facebook group to comment on the invitation and captioned their post: “No, no, no, no, no and no.”
The invitation sparked a series of reactions in the group, with some labeling the couple’s approach as ‘weird’.
One replied: ‘If you can’t afford a wedding, don’t have a wedding.’
After laying out the order of service for the day and the dress code, the US couple asked their guests to cover the cost of their meal at the reception. Stock photo
“It’s so tacky,” another added. ‘It’s not about the amount, it’s about asking people to come to your wedding and help pay – that’s strange.’
A third said: ‘If you’re on a budget, don’t have a big wedding, or write ‘no boxed gifts’ on the invite, as is standard practice.
“Most people know it’s a code for ‘cash or checks only, please.’
However, others were quick to defend the couple and insisted this would be a normal practice.
One supporter said: ‘I have absolutely no problem with this and I find it a bit strange that people expect a great meal and alcohol for free but will also complain if the food and alcohol aren’t good enough or if it’s not an open day is. bar.’
Another added: ‘Is it bad that I don’t actually have a problem with this? It’s a reasonable amount, less than what most people would spend on a gift, and they were clear they didn’t want gifts on top of the contribution.”