My boyfriend booked tickets on a luxury cruise for my birthday and I’m dumping him on it – it sounds ungrateful, but the people are on my side
A woman has revealed she decided to break up with her long-term boyfriend after discovering he bought her a luxury cruise for her birthday.
Take to RedditThe woman from the US explained her reasoning and people agreed she made the right decision.
She explained that her family and friends found the gift “romantic” and admitted that she needed some validation and for people to see her point of view.
She went on to explain that her partner of two and a half years doesn’t listen to her likes and dislikes, ignores the fact that she suffers severely from seasickness, and most likely booked the cruise because he wanted to do it, especially considering the fact that she has already agreed to go to a festival on the same dates.
The vast majority of commenters were on her side, assuring the woman that she is not ungrateful and puts his own needs first.
A woman has revealed on Reddit that she decided to break up with her long-term boyfriend after discovering he bought her a luxury cruise for her birthday (stock image)
She wrote: ‘My birthday is coming up and three days ago I found out what my birthday present was from my boyfriend: tickets to a cruise.
“His sister spread the news thinking I would be excited, but I’m not. We live together and I found the gift and know it’s for me. I sound so ungrateful, but I’m not. This gift proves to me that things will never change.
She added: “I love him but I’m so done with it. This has been a recurring conversation in our two and a half year relationship. The next thing you need to do is talk this out and put an end to things.
“The first thing is that this gift isn’t for me. I don’t like cruises because I get really seasick and nothing I do helps.’
She explained that she had already booked time off and bought tickets to a festival she was looking forward to, for the same week as the cruise.
She said: ‘I also told him what I wanted to do for my birthday, which was go to a Renfaire festival on my birthday. I have already taken a week off to prepare for this fair.
‘I have bought tickets and am saving from month to month so that I can spend money without it affecting the finances at home. Why would he book tickets at the same time I left to go to this festival? Also, this cruise wasn’t cheap at all, so it’s basically a waste of money not going.
‘I’m so annoyed. I have told him over and over again that I don’t feel like he listens to me, that I feel like he only gives me things by thinking about what is best for him or what he would want.
She concluded by saying, “It’s not just presents. He makes decisions based on what he thinks is best, and I just can’t deal with it anymore. I love him but I’m so done with it and before anyone says I haven’t talked to him or don’t want to talk to him about this, I have repeatedly.
‘This has been a recurring conversation in our 2.5 year relationship. The next thing we need to do is talk this out and put an end to things.”
People were quick to leave their own thoughts on the post, and the vast majority were on her side.
One person said: ‘He just didn’t care what you wanted. He wanted to control the narrative and then treat you as if you should be grateful. You made the right decision by dumping him.”
Another said: ‘I’m here to say this. he booked this trip KNEW you weren’t going.
‘The next argument is that the trip is ‘non-refundable and very expensive’. Homeboy put all this in a nice package, addressed to you, knowing you wouldn’t be there. 100% he’s bringing someone else on this journey
While another said: ‘I think there are three options here. Two and three make equal sense, but personally I lean towards three.
‘1. he’s cheating, as you pointed out. 2. The boyfriend has no interest in the relationship at all and simply doesn’t pay her any attention or care, including looking after her interests as a whole and the issues with being on a boat.
‘3. boyfriend is abusive and trying to wear down the original poster and will make her feel guilty about going on this cruise.’
Someone else wrote: ‘Agreed. I think this was malicious to try to guilt her into skipping the Ren Faire for something she hates (because that’s what he wants to do). Have fun on your Ren Faire hunt, this is just the beginning of the rest of your new life.”