Signs that Rachel Lindsay and Bryan Abasolo were headed for divorce

Former Bachelor party couple Rachel Lindsay And Bryan Abasolo may have shocked Bachelor Nation with their divorce, but the former couple has been open about their struggles for years.

We weekly confirmed on Tuesday, January 2, that Abasolo, 43, filed to end his marriage to Lindsay, 38, after four years. In court documents obtained by UsAbasolo asked for spousal support and listed New Year’s Eve as the date of the couple’s separation.

Before their breakup, however, Lindsay hinted in December 2023 that she and the chiropractor were “in two completely different places” as they discussed their preference for keeping their relationship private. In a lengthy blog post from July 2022, she previously explained why she rarely shared insights into her personal life via social media.

“Let me be honest: Bryan is none of your business,” she told readers. “I’m kidding…well, half-joking.”

Lindsay has yet to directly address her divorce, but she seemingly left clues on social media about the big life change days before the filing made headlines. Abasolo, meanwhile, issued a statement via his Instagram Story on Tuesday.

“Many of you know me as a chiropractor, and also as a husband, my proudest role yet. After over four years of marriage, Rachel and I have made the difficult decision to separate and start over,” he wrote, referring to himself as a “family man” and noting that the decision to separate was not made easily . “Sometimes loving yourself and your partner means letting go. I wanted you to hear it from the source before the blogs started making up their own reality.”

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Cryptic New Year’s messages

Lindsay hinted that she would take on challenges in 2023 while celebrating New Year’s Eve. “Definitely one of the hardest years of my life, but I chose to focus on grateful moments and carry that energy into 2024. 💛,” she captioned one Instagram video featuring highlights of adventures with her friends.

She further alluded to her ups and downs via her Instagram Story on New Year’s Day, sharing a mirror selfie from a workout. “Sweating it all out from 2023,” she wrote.

In a subsequent story, Lindsay resonated with a list of lessons from 2023, including: “Go where you are celebrated,” “If forced it will probably fail,” “It’s okay to outgrow people, places and things,” and ” People will show you who they are. Always. Believe them.”

Although Abasolo himself did not share any New Year’s resolutions, he shared fitness tips with his Instagram followers.

Living ‘different lives’

During a December 2023 episode of ‘Viall Files’, Lindsay opened up about keeping her private life out of the spotlight. “We don’t put ourselves out there at all [except] maybe an anniversary or a holiday [post here and there], but I think I did that because people were so critical of us when we came off the show,” she explained, noting that she and Abasolo wanted to keep their relationship to themselves. “You know, marriage has its ups and downs, but you never know when we’re good or when we’re not because we never let it out.”

She added that the pair led “completely different lives” due to their career paths. “We’re just in two completely different places,” she said. “There’s not a lot of time to take pictures of each other and show what we’re doing because we’re in bed or something.”

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Latest posts together

In his last post to Lindsay before filing for divorce, Abasolo gave his followers a glimpse of how the couple celebrated Halloween 2023. Abasolo dressed up as LL CoolJ, wearing a black tracksuit and a bucket hat. Lindsay’s outfit was modeled after the rapper’s 1990 song “Around the Way Girl.” (She uploaded similar photos of their costumes at the time.)

Lindsay previously marked the duo’s fourth wedding anniversary with a simple one Instagram tribute in August 2023. “This is 4,” she captioned a photo of the couple posing on a beach at sunset.

Staying informed over long distances

Lindsay spoke candidly over the years about how she and Abasolo maintained their relationship while living in Los Angeles and Miami, respectively. During an October 2020 episode of his “Dr. Abs Healthcast’ podcast, the pair insisted they would “eventually bring ourselves together” after pursuing their individual passions.

“We know where we’re going, we know where we’re going, and we know what we’re trying to build as Abasolos,” Lindsay said, asserting, “I don’t put my career before my husband. I put my family first.”

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A month later, Lindsay said Us that living apart was “not an eternal situation” for her and Abasolo. “The reason we decided to tell people about this is because there was so much speculation about whether we were still together. … So we thought, ‘Okay, we’re going to tackle it.’ And people still think we’re going to divorce.”

Struggling to start a family

During her appearance on “Viall Files” in December 2023, Lindsay said she and Abasolo were “working on” having children. “Sometimes it’s not as easy as you think. You think, ‘Okay, when I’m ready, it will happen,’ and then it doesn’t happen,” she admitted, adding that she hoped to hit the “reset button” in the new year. “So that was a bit of a struggle too.”

She told me earlier Kaitlyn Bristowe on her podcast “Off the Vine” that she was putting some aspects of her career on hold in hopes of starting a family. “I hope that we have children and that we are working on something bigger now. … I feel the pressure,” Lindsay said in August 2023. “I don’t even have frozen eggs. It’s just a lot. My therapist tells me in this transition phase that this is the first time I have actually had time to be still and deal with my reality. I’ve always escaped it by working. My only job right now is podcasting and I have a lot more time.”