I dated a guy at work and he kept it a secret – and it wasn’t for the reason I thought
A DATING coach has shown that even she is not immune to dating disasters.
Navigating work relationships can be tricky at the best of times, but hers was certainly a difficult one.
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She had been in a relationship with a man at work who insisted that “no one should ever know.”
But she was shocked to find out the real reason after he saw her in the office.
Nowadays Dani Coco (@dani.coco1) says she would not tolerate similar behavior.
But she was younger and less sensible in such areas.
She shared her experience in the hope that it might help someone going through similar dating trauma.
And there were plenty of them in the comments on her video.
San Diego Dani shares “dating advice and stories on her TikTok.
“Possibly my most unhinged dating story,” she gushed after.
“So one time I went out with a guy I worked with. It was just one of those offices, and everyone was dating each other,” she said.
“But he was adamant that no one in the office should know.”
The procedure at her workplace was that every arrangement between employees had to be reported in the interest of openness and transparency.
‘He wasn’t my superior, so it wouldn’t have been a problem. But he said no one should ever know,” she added.
“Now that I’m that age, with my life experience, I would have said: OK, bye.
“But at that moment I thought: fine, he’s just a private person.”
He tried to justify his position by saying that any knowledge of the relationship would ruin his chances of promotion.
‘I should have run for the hills. I didn’t know any better,” she said.
Even going out for dinner was fraught with intrigue as he insisted they go in separate cars.
“He made me take my car because he didn’t want us to be seen together, which is ridiculous because people knew we were friends.”
But after a few months of dating, things took a turn for the worse and she didn’t see that coming.
“One day I texted him and said we had to do something this weekend.”
That was it. The end. The end. Kaput. She never heard from him again.
“He just stopped texting,” she said.
Back at the office, he gave no explanation, avoided all eye contact and made excuses and trips to avoid bumping into her.
“He wouldn’t answer questions I sent in our team chat and wouldn’t engage with me,” she wrote.
“I was so stunned I couldn’t even be angry. Eventually he quit and we never spoke again.”
Without a chance conversation with mutual friends, she might never have known the true reason behind his behavior.
“They told me that right before he quit, his long-term, long-distance girlfriend moved in with him.
“That was the part that surprised me. Because it wasn’t just that he was an asshole, it was also how far in advance he thought about it,” she said.
Dani’s post brought back memories of dating hell for commenters.
“My fiancé ghosted me after I found out he had a girlfriend of four years and that he lived in my house and drove my car that was registered in my name,” was a horrible experience for a woman.
“I dated a colleague who moved in with his girlfriend who traveled a lot for work. “I only found out through the mailroom guys because he was collecting boxes,” said another.
“Something similar happened to me until I was hanging out with a girl from work and she told me she was pregnant by him,” was one person’s sad story.
“I once dated a man for six months. He came to my house every weekend until the weekend he didn’t come and found out he was getting married to his long-term fiancée that weekend,” was an equally unfortunate experience from a second person.
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