This is the one thing that makes me hate myself for bringing a child into the world – and it's scarily common

A mother of five is questioning her decision to have children after no one showed up for her daughter's fourth birthday.

Katt Garcia admitted that she was afraid to throw big birthday parties in the past, but was willing to make the effort because it was all her little girl wanted.

But that decision came back to haunt her when she realized none of her daughter's friends would show up to celebrate.

“I HATE myself for putting my kids in a life where they don't have people to come to their parties,” she told Threads.

“How do you tell an almost four-year-old that no one is going to make it?” she asked.

She added that the whole situation made her “angry at herself” and vented that the “village” does not exist.

She continued, “Ten years from now, how will you explain to your child, 'Oh, you didn't have a first birthday party because no one wanted to come.'

The mother's tirade struck a chord with other parents.

“We are literally at every birthday party my kids are invited to because no one deserves to not be celebrated,” said one mother.

“It's hard, but as they get older and make friends at school, they can get them to come,” said another.

Others had asked the same questions.

“Wait until their 10th birthday and you rent out an entire skating rink for their birthday for a few hours and they invite their entire class and no one comes,” said one sad parent.

'There were people who didn't show up for my daughter's third birthday. It was a last minute small pizza party (just let everyone know a week in advance) and some who said they were coming just didn't show up. We got 3 huge pizzas and I decorated it as my parents and my sister. I was so hurt for my daughter,” said another.

Another woman said she received 20 responses for her daughter's sixth birthday, but no one showed up, leaving the little girl too scared to throw another party.

Some shared ideas to make the day fun “without having to rely on friends.”

“Go to a park and have a picnic party. Your little one just plays there with random kids, but has balloons, cake and plays games together,” said one mother.

One woman said people should have lower expectations and plan accordingly.

'The size of a good birthday party is the number of their age. 4=4 guests. Keep it small, limited to only your closest friends/neighbors. It's less likely that those people won't show up.'

And others judged why the family had no close friends or family.

“People don't show up because a four-year-old is an asshole,” someone said bluntly.

After Katt's post went viral, she made a new one discussing the things she learned.

The first is that many people avoid throwing parties for fear of rejection.

The second is that parental friendships are difficult to maintain, and she may have to “move to Texas” to find that kind of support.

She also shot at people who criticized her post.

“Some of you here really only have judgments and assumptions in your hearts,” she wrote.

She then made an impassioned plea for parents to make an effort for other children on their birthday.

“Final thought: If you get invited to a kid's party, try to make it a priority,” she said.