I went on a date with a guy and his dodgy move with the bill left me to blame
A NEW Yorker has said navigating the city’s dating scene is not for the faint of heart.
She tried it, survived and now has stories about dining out there.
But her second date with a man turned strange when he had doubts about the bill.
After they finished eating, she put her cash contribution on the table, but his next move just gave her the creeps.
As a result, this romance was doomed and there would be no third date.
Taylor Pare (@paretay) has 63,000 followers on TikTok, where she shares her love for “storytimes and spilling tea NYC.”
She shared her unhappy dating story in her after but was aware that it could be controversial.
“I think I just got the plague from the guy I’m seeing,” she said.
But commenters were divided over who was right in this dating scenario.
After her experience, she said the New York dating scene was not for the faint of heart.
She had already been on a few dates with this man, but when the check arrived, “he was acting very unreliable.”
It didn’t seem like he was splashing the money. Although she was willing to pay her half, she still felt that it was cheap.
‘I’m unemployed, he has a lucrative job. He ordered a lot of things from the menu that I can’t eat,” she complained.
But when the bill came, Taylor said he barely acknowledged it.
However, she put down her half, $20. When it looked like he wasn’t paying his share, she said there was no cash left in her bag.
Only then, she said, did he pull out his Platinum American Express card and give her $20 back.
“He should at least give his half after making me buy the second round on the first date. It’s super bland and unappealing,” she said.
But she worried she was being superficial because she thought it was a “deal breaker.”
There was a huge response to her post with over 3,000 comments.
And it was a very lively comments section.
Dating etiquette
Tradition still plays a role in the dating game that still exists, but the rules are changing. Here are some guidelines
Who pays the bill:
- The person who initiated the date usually pays for both meals
- If the date is successful, offer to pay for the next one
- If it reaches a third date, agree to split the bills down the middle for future meetings
- If your date insists on always paying, that’s their choice, but let them know you’d like to treat them occasionally as well
‘I don’t want anyone who isn’t generous. Generous with his money, time, everything,” said one.
‘It’s cheap, but so are you. The bill was $40, which isn’t a huge amount,” a second person thought.
“If he knows you’re unemployed and is still trying to get you paid, that’s a huge red mark in my opinion,” a third person wrote.
“From day one, I shared every bill with my friend. Taking money out of the equation allowed me to see my attraction more clearly and deeply,” was one viewer’s experience.
“Deal breaker is the unreliable behavior and zero communication,” wrote another.