I regret adopting my daughter; I feel like I have to babysit someone else’s child

A mother has revealed she regrets adopting her daughter and feels she is only looking after someone else’s child.

The mother of three said doctors told her it would be difficult for her to conceive, so after undergoing IVF for her firstborn, she decided to adopt a daughter rather than undergo treatment.

On Reddit, the mother revealed: “We adopted this beautiful girl whose parents were too young to raise her themselves

“I loved her so much and didn’t treat her any differently, but I never felt like she was mine.

‘I often feel like I have to look after someone else’s child.

“I feel terrible, but I can’t do anything about it. I’ve tried to force myself to feel it, but I just don’t.

“She’s fifteen now and I’ve never felt close to her.”

The mum revealed she found out she was pregnant four years ago and was so shocked it had happened naturally.

She said her hormones were “all over the place” during her pregnancy and she began to hate her adopted daughter.

She said: “I felt like if I had just waited, I wouldn’t have had to have her.

“When my daughter was born, everything just felt right.

I felt a good connection, just like with my son, and I bonded immediately.”

The mother continued: “I sound horrible, but adopting her was a huge mistake.

‘I wish I could go back in time.

‘I love her dearly, but unfortunately not as much as my biological children.

“I hate myself for it because I promised her parents I wouldn’t love her differently, and I feel like I let everyone down.”

The mother revealed that her husband does not feel the same way and has always said that he loves all his children equally.

Reddit users flooded the comments section with replies to the post, with many suggesting the mother should try therapy.

One person said: ‘I really hope your adopted daughter doesn’t know how you feel.

“Have you sought professional help for yourself to parse what’s going on and why you haven’t allowed yourself to bond?”

Another person said: “Because you already had a biological child, you shouldn’t have adopted him.

“I have heard many adoptees say that they have always felt like they were competing with the adoptive parent’s biological child.”

A third person said: ‘You should get therapy.

“Do not, under any circumstances, tell your daughter that you do not love her as much as you love your biological children.”

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