“Are they celebrities?” people rage as wedding guest is pressured to give £1,000 as a gift
A BRIDESMAID is left feeling ‘oppressed’ after being pressured to give £1,000 as a wedding present.
The woman, from Scotland, revealed she has been saving for her friend’s wedding for three years but still cannot afford the going rate.
She said on social media: “How much do I give the bride and groom for the wedding gift since they asked for cash?
‘They already own their own house, so they don’t have a register.
“The other bridesmaids are giving over £1,000 but I just can’t afford to give that much and the others are making me feel pinched.
‘All the other bridesmaids have already given the money because they won’t see her until the day of the hen.
“There have been a few others who have donated quite a bit more than £1,000.”
It then emerged that the bridesmaid has already spent £900 of her own money on wedding and hen party costs, plus paying for her own flights and accommodation.
But none of the other members of the bridal party contributed a cent.
She said: “The hen is abroad and a few days before the wedding so I had to organize it.
“[There is] About 30 people are coming and I bought the gift bags, the games and the separate gift bag for the bride for everyone.
“In addition, I made the bride a box for the wedding morning, I plan to decorate the room with balloons, her wedding perfume, a few other personalized items, and my dress and alterations.
“Excluding the cost of the holiday I spent around £900.”
Since the woman is really worried about finding the money, social media users have been quick to tell her not to worry about it.
“I got married two years ago and the most I got was £600 from my parents,” said one.
“I would be shocked if someone had given me that amount. We asked people to only give if they could afford it. We wanted their time, not their money.”
I just can’t afford to give that much as a gift
Worried bridesmaid
A second fumed: “Please tell me £1,000 is a joke? Maybe £1,000 is like £100 in your friend group which is fair enough but I’m honestly so shocked.”
A third asked: “Are these folk celebrities? £1000 gifts omg lol I’m out of contact.”
A fourth echoed: “£1k cash for getting married? Who is the bride, Victoria Beckham?”
“£1000 wedding gift? I’ve never heard of something so wild,” chimed in a fifth.
“Is this a celebrity wedding? £100 is the maximum, and even that is a lot.”
Meanwhile, someone else admitted: “I feel very uncomfortable about this.
“No one should ever feel cramped. We all need to be in control of our own finances.
“£1000 as a wedding/bachelorette gift is an astonishing amount of money.
‘This is not about being strict, but about appreciating what is important. It’s not money.
“Spend what you can, love your girlfriend, don’t spend time with her and don’t let anyone judge you.”